미혼부 출생신고 절차와 세상에서 제일 좋은 아빠의 품 설립 이야기
## 절망 속 희망 찾기, 미혼부 출생신고와 세상에서 제일 좋은 아빠의 품
절망 속에서 피어난 희망, 미혼부의 출생신고 극복과 세상에서 제일 좋은 아빠의 품 설립 이야기
오늘, 홀로 아이를 키우는 미혼부가 겪는 출생신고의 어려움을 극복하고, 절망의 순간에서 희망을 발견하여 '세상에서 제일 좋은 아빠의 품'이라는 단체를 설립하기까지의 감동적인 이야기에 대해 자세히 알아보겠습니다. 이 이야기는 단순히 한 개인의 어려움을 넘어서, 사회적 편견과 제도적 문제에 직면한 미혼부들의 현실을 생생하게 보여주고 있는데요. 특히, 주인공 '쑤' 대표님의 경험은 많은 이들에게 깊은 울림과 함께, 미혼부 지원에 대한 사회적 관심을 촉구하는 계기가 될 것입니다.
예기치 못한 현실, 홀로 남겨진 아빠와 딸
쑤 대표님은 사랑이(가명) 엄마와 결혼을 약속하고 교제를 하던 중, 예상보다 일찍 아이를 갖게 되었습니다. 하지만 기쁨도 잠시, 당시 하던 일마저 어려워지면서 경제적으로 힘든 상황에 놓이게 되었는데요. 더욱이 아이 엄마는 임신 사실을 알고 심한 우울증을 겪었고, 쑤 대표님은 마음이 조급하고 지혜롭지 못하게 대처하며 아픔을 겪었다고 합니다. 결국, 아이 엄마는 임신 중에 잠시 떠났다가 아이가 태어난 후 다시 돌아왔지만, 얼마 지나지 않아 다시 떠나면서 쑤 대표님은 홀로 아이를 키우게 되었습니다.
사랑이 엄마가 떠난 후, 쑤 대표님은 경제적인 어려움과 함께 홀로 아이를 돌봐야 하는 막막함에 직면했습니다. 일자리를 구해야 했지만, 갓 태어난 아이를 혼자 두고 나갈 수 없었는데요. 게다가 부모님마저 "아이를 고아원에 맡기고 경제적으로 안정을 찾은 후에 다시 데려오는 것이 어떻겠냐"는 현실적인 조언을 했지만, 쑤 대표님은 "엄마 사랑도 받지 못하는 아이를 돈 때문에 시설에 맡길 수는 없다"는 생각에 더욱 힘든 결정을 내렸습니다. 스스로 생활력이 강하다고 자부했지만, 현실은 예상보다 훨씬 더 버거웠던 것이죠.
법의 벽에 가로막힌 출생신고, 절망의 시작
아이를 키우기 위해 가장 먼저 해야 할 일은 바로 출생신고였습니다. 하지만 쑤 대표님은 출생신고를 하는 과정에서 예상치 못한 법적인 문제에 부딪히게 되는데요. 혼인 관계가 아닌 상태에서 남자가 단독으로 출생신고를 할 수 없다는 사실을 알게 된 것입니다. 법률구조공단, 여성단체, 법무사 사무실 등 여러 곳을 찾아다니며 방법을 문의했지만, 모두 "현재 법적으로는 불가능하다"는 답변만 되돌아왔습니다.
당시 법원은 미혼부의 출생신고를 허용하지 않았습니다. 과거에는 사실혼 관계나 양육 사실이 인정되면 미혼부의 출생신고가 가능했던 적도 있었지만, 법원 판례 변경과 함께 엄격하게 적용되면서 미혼부는 친자확인 소송을 거쳐야만 출생신고를 할 수 있게 된 것입니다. 쑤 대표님은 이러한 현실을 전혀 알지 못했고, 법적으로 꼼짝없이 막혀버린 상황에 깊은 절망감을 느꼈습니다. "미혼모는 되는데 미혼부는 안 된다니, 이게 말이 되나?" 쑤 대표님은 당시의 황당함과 답답함을 토로했습니다.
벼랑 끝에 선 미혼부, 삶의 끈을 놓지 않다
출생신고가 막히면서 아이는 의료보험 혜택을 받을 수 없고, 어린이집 등 공공시설 이용도 불가능했습니다. 주민등록번호가 없는 아이는 사회 시스템에서 완전히 배제된 존재나 다름없었던 것입니다. 경제적인 어려움은 더욱 심각해졌습니다. 신용대출과 카드빚은 쌓여가고, 당장 아이 분유 값조차 마련하기 어려웠는데요. 쑤 대표님은 가진 물건들을 하나둘씩 팔기 시작했습니다. 중고차, TV, 노트북, 심지어 개통하면 지원금을 주는 휴대폰까지 팔아 현금을 마련하며 힘겨운 하루하루를 버텼습니다.
극심한 경제난 속에서 쑤 대표님은 신용불량자 신세까지 되었습니다. 당장 돈이 없어 빚을 갚을 수 없었고, 은행 계좌마저 사용할 수 없게 되었는데요. "신용을 지킬 것인가, 아이를 지킬 것인가" 벼랑 끝에 선 쑤 대표님은 결국 신용을 포기하고 아이를 지키는 길을 택했습니다. 당장 눈앞의 현실은 암담했지만, 아이를 포기할 수는 없었던 것입니다.
생계를 위해 쑤 대표님은 닥치는 대로 일을 했습니다. 양말 공장, 인형 눈 붙이기, 심지어 유모차 끌고 막노동까지, 하루에 몇 군데씩 일자리를 찾아다니며 궂은일을 마다하지 않았습니다. 아이를 유모차에 태워 작업 현장에 데려가기도 했지만, 어린아이와 함께 일하는 것을 탐탁지 않아 하는 분위기 속에서 제대로 된 일자리를 구하기는 쉽지 않았습니다. 쑤 대표님은 "다른 사람들 인건비보다 적게 받아도 좋으니 제발 일하게 해달라고 사정하기도 했다"며 당시 절박했던 심정을 전했습니다.
절망의 끝에서 마주한 하나님의 은혜
어느 날, 쑤 대표님은 분유통에 남은 분유가 단 한 스푼밖에 남지 않은 것을 발견했습니다. 아이는 잠들어 있었지만, 곧 깨어나 분유를 찾을 것이 뻔했는데요. 기저귀 역시 몇 장 남지 않은 상황, 당장 분유와 기저귀를 살 돈조차 없었던 쑤 대표님은 깊은 절망감에 휩싸였습니다. "이제 정말 끝인가, 아이를 지키기 위해 모든 것을 포기해야 하는 것인가" 극한 상황 속에서 쑤 대표님은 절망과 좌절감을 느꼈습니다.
하지만 바로 그때, 쑤 대표님은 이전에는 알지 못했던 하나님의 은혜를 경험하게 됩니다. 평소 종교를 가지지 않았던 쑤 대표님은 막막한 현실 앞에서 문득 신에게 의지하는 마음이 생겼다고 합니다. "하나님, 제발 우리 아이만 살려주세요. 아무도 도와주지 않아도 좋으니, 우리 아이만 건드리지 말아 주세요." 절박한 심정으로 기도하며 밤을 지새웠습니다.
기적은 6개월 후, 아이가 태어난 지 1년 4개월 만에 찾아왔습니다. 여러 사람들의 도움으로 드디어 아이의 출생신고를 할 수 있게 된 것입니다. 특히, 법률구조공단 직원의 헌신적인 도움이 결정적이었는데요. 아이 아빠였던 그 직원은 밤낮으로 판례를 찾아 연구한 끝에, 쑤 대표님의 출생신고를 가능하게 하는 방법을 찾아냈습니다. 채권 추심 전화인 줄 알고 전화를 피했던 쑤 대표님에게 개인 휴대폰 문자를 보내 방법을 알려준 그 직원의 도움은, 쑤 대표님에게는 한 줄기 빛과 같았습니다.
출생신고 후 두 달 뒤, 쑤 대표님은 해남에 사는 한 미혼부로부터 연락을 받게 됩니다. 자신과 비슷한 상황에 처한 그 아빠는 쑤 대표님이 출생신고를 했다는 소식을 듣고 방법을 알려달라고 간절하게 요청했는데요. 쑤 대표님은 그 아빠를 만나 직접 도움을 주었고, 이후에도 비슷한 어려움을 겪는 미혼부들에게 도움의 손길을 내밀기 시작했습니다.
'세상에서 제일 좋은 아빠의 품', 희망을 나누는 단체로
다른 미혼부를 돕는 과정에서 쑤 대표님은 자신이 겪었던 어려움이 개인적인 불운이 아니라, 사회 구조적인 문제라는 것을 깨달았습니다. 혼자 아이를 키우는 미혼부들은 법적인 문제뿐만 아니라 사회적 편견과 경제적 어려움 등 다양한 어려움에 직면하고 있었는데요. 이러한 현실을Change to English:
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Christian testimony | I can't register my daughter's birth on my own | "Refresh my Soul",
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Today, we will delve into the moving story of overcoming the birth registration process for unwed fathers raising children alone, and finding hope in despair to establish the "World's Best Dad's Arms" organization. This story goes beyond simply an individual's difficulties, vividly illustrating the reality faced by unwed fathers confronting social prejudice and systemic problems. In particular, the experiences of CEO "Ssu" will deeply resonate with many and serve as an opportunity to urge social interest in supporting unwed fathers.
Unexpected Reality, Father and Daughter Left Alone
CEO Ssu and Sarang (pseudonym)'s mother were in a committed relationship and engaged to be married when they unexpectedly conceived a child earlier than planned. However, their joy was short-lived as CEO Ssu's work became challenging, placing them in a difficult financial situation. Moreover, Sarang's mother experienced severe depression upon learning about the pregnancy, and CEO Ssu expressed regret for not responding wisely and with compassion during this painful time. Ultimately, Sarang's mother left during the pregnancy, returned briefly after the child's birth, but soon departed again, leaving CEO Ssu to raise their child alone.
After Sarang's mother left, CEO Ssu faced both financial hardship and the overwhelming task of caring for a child alone. He needed to find work but could not leave his newborn child unattended. Furthermore, even his parents suggested the practical advice of "placing the child in an orphanage temporarily and bringing her back after achieving financial stability." However, CEO Ssu, believing "I cannot leave a child who already lacks maternal love in an institution for financial reasons," made the more difficult decision to raise her himself. Despite his self-confidence in his resourcefulness, reality proved to be far more challenging than anticipated.
Birth Registration Blocked by Law, The Beginning of Despair
The first and most crucial step to raising his child was birth registration. However, CEO Ssu encountered unexpected legal obstacles during this process. He learned that, in cases where parents are not legally married, a father cannot register the birth of his child independently. Despite inquiries at the Legal Aid Corporation, women's organizations, and law offices, the response was consistently, "Currently, it is legally impossible."
At the time, the court did not permit birth registration by unwed fathers. While previously, birth registration was possible for unwed fathers if a de facto marital relationship or proof of childcare was acknowledged, changes in court precedents led to strict enforcement, requiring unwed fathers to undergo paternity suits to register their child's birth. CEO Ssu was completely unaware of this reality, and this legal impasse plunged him into deep despair. "Unwed mothers are possible, but unwed fathers are not? Does this make sense?" CEO Ssu lamented, expressing his bewilderment and frustration at the time.
Unwed Father at the Edge of a Cliff, Refusing to Let Go of Life
With birth registration blocked, the child could not receive national health insurance benefits or utilize public facilities like daycare centers. Without a resident registration number, the child was essentially excluded from the social system. The financial difficulties worsened. Credit card debts and loans accumulated, and CEO Ssu struggled even to afford formula for his child. He began selling his possessions one by one. A used car, TV, laptop, and even mobile phones that offered subsidies upon activation were sold to secure cash, enduring each day with hardship.
Amidst extreme financial difficulties, CEO Ssu became credit delinquent. He was unable to repay his debts due to lack of funds, and even his bank account became unusable. "Should I protect my credit, or protect my child?" Standing at the edge of a cliff, CEO Ssu ultimately chose to abandon his credit and protect his child. The immediate reality was bleak, but he could not abandon his daughter.
To make a living, CEO Ssu took on any work he could find. From a sock factory and attaching doll eyes to manual labor pushing a stroller, he tirelessly searched for jobs, working several places a day and never shying away from menial tasks. He even took his child to work sites in a stroller, but it was difficult to secure proper employment due to the unfavorable atmosphere towards working with a young child. CEO Ssu recounted desperately pleading, "I am willing to accept less than the usual wage, please just give me work."
Encountering God's Grace at the End of Despair
One day, CEO Ssu discovered that only one spoonful of formula remained in the formula container. His child was asleep, but he knew she would soon wake up and ask for milk. Diapers were also running low, and CEO Ssu did not have the money to buy formula or diapers. He was overcome with deep despair. "Is this really the end? Do I have to give up everything to protect my child?" In this extreme situation, CEO Ssu felt despair and frustration.
However, it was precisely at that moment that CEO Ssu experienced God's grace, something he had never known before. Although not religious, facing the hopeless reality, CEO Ssu felt a sudden urge to rely on a higher power. "God, please just save my child. I don't need anyone's help, just don't harm my child." He spent the night praying with a desperate heart.
Miraculously, six months later, when his child was 1 year and 4 months old, a breakthrough came. With the help of many people, he was finally able to register his child's birth. The dedicated assistance of a Legal Aid Corporation employee was particularly crucial. This employee, who was also a father, tirelessly researched precedents and found a way to enable CEO Ssu's birth registration. Contacting CEO Ssu with a personal mobile phone message to inform him of the method, after CEO Ssu had been avoiding calls fearing debt collection, was like a ray of light for CEO Ssu.
Two months after the birth registration, CEO Ssu received a call from an unwed father in Haenam. This father, facing similar circumstances, had heard about CEO Ssu's birth registration and desperately requested to know how he did it. CEO Ssu met with this father, offered direct assistance, and subsequently began extending a helping hand to other unwed fathers experiencing similar difficulties.
"World's Best Dad's Arms," An Organization Sharing Hope
Through helping other unwed fathers, CEO Ssu realized that his past hardships were not just personal misfortunes but rather systemic societal issues. Unwed fathers raising children alone faced various difficulties beyond legal problems, including social prejudice and economic hardship. Recognizing this reality, CEO Ssu established "World's Best Dad's Arms" in March 2019. This organization aims to support unwed fathers, raise awareness about their challenges, and advocate for policy changes.
Since its establishment, "World's Best Dad's Arms" has been actively engaged in various support activities. They provide birth registration assistance, legal counseling, emergency relief, and psychological support to unwed fathers. Furthermore, they are working to change social perceptions of unwed fathers and create a society where children can grow up happily regardless of their family structure. CEO Ssu emphasizes that the organization is not aiming for large-scale expansion but rather focusing on creating a network where unwed fathers can easily find help and support.
The name "World's Best Dad's Arms" reflects CEO Ssu's desire to become a strong support system for children. He shares a touching anecdote of praying for the children of the unwed fathers he meets, regardless of their fathers' religions. He reassures the children, "You are not unfortunate at all. You are with someone even greater," conveying hope and positivity to children who might be facing difficult circumstances. CEO Ssu’s work provides not only practical help but also emotional encouragement to unwed fathers, guiding them towards a brighter future.
Through his own painful experiences and the establishment of "World's Best Dad's Arms," CEO Ssu has become a symbol of hope and resilience for unwed fathers in Korea. His story reminds us of the importance of social support and legal reform to ensure that all children and families, regardless of their structure, can live with dignity and happiness. Let us pay attention to the voices of unwed fathers and work together to build a more inclusive and equitable society.